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7 ways to wear a scarf

11 Oct

In my opinion, wearing a scarf is one of the easiest ways available to enhance an outfit and make it stand off without trying too much. The visual impact rises with a bold pattern scarf and a timeless piece like Hermes’ can compliment hundreds of outfits over the years.
There are a few things to consider when buying and wearing a scarf, but before we go there I want to show you what i drew to illustrate my favorite ways of wearing such a piece. First I will show you 7 ways of wearing it, then I shall give you 7 pieces of advice to help you pick up such a great accessory!


1. Match the scarf to your personality
Like any other accessory, I strongly advise you to buy only the things that represent you, that feel like a “part of your soul”, because wearing an object that truly shows who you are is more important than matching the latest trends. However, don’t ignore the latter and pay attention to the newest and hottest fashion trends, pick the ones you find appropriate for your personality then read on to see how you can match a scarf to a fashionable outfit.

2. Buy 100% silk
Do you really need me to tell you why you should buy only natural fabrics? A high quality silk scarf is a good investment, versatile enough to be worn with both day and night outfits, but more important, high quality shows beyond a visible brand name. You can tell by the quality of the pattern, the smoothness of the fabric and the lasting colors that a scarf will become a timeless piece in your wardrobe.
Plastic is for inanimate objects, don’t do synthetic fabrics if you have natural alternatives for your clothes. If you still love a scarf and it has a lot of syntethic fiber in it, the least you can do is to treat that scarf with fabric conditioner.
FAIL ALERT: polyester scarves produce hair frizz and you sure know how annoying that gets when you can’t get the hair out of your face and you fell that static electricity sting everytime you touch something!!

3. Beware overaccessorizing
You put a scarf around your neck. You tie one around your bag. You wear multiple bracelets, statement earrings and a big watch. All.at.the.same.time. I look at you and see a christmas tree, not a lady. My point is, don’t do more than another jewelry piece if you go for a scarf and make sure they compliment each other instead of showing off separately.
TIP: check out scarves.net for tutorials on how to tie your piece!

4. Colourful is not always better!
If you have trouble deciding what’s your favorite color and you want to wear them all, you definitely have a problem if you wear them at the same time. I could write a book about colours and colour coordination, but i’m not starting here. My colourful advice on matching a scarf is to GO SAFE at first and wear a colourful scarf with a neutral outfit, because the pattern on the scarf itself is hard to match if it shows more than 3 tones.
IF you’re confident enough, you can try picking up a colour from your scarf, tone it down and wear a softer hue of it on your other items, but if you wear two or more items in your outfit (dress +jacket or blouse+pants+cardigan etc) I would advise you to do two neutrals and only another coloured one.

5. Thrift stores can be gold mines
Leave your pride aside and shop with the poor. No matter how much money you have, you will rarely find timeless pieces in mall boutiques…the best scarves I bought were found in thrift stores and the pattern, the colors and the fabric were absolutely amazing! I bought an original Hermes for less than 1 €/$, but that’s because I was lucky and they had no idea what a beauty they were selling there! If you decide to give it a go, prepare to spend some time searching for a beautiful piece, don’t buy anything with visible flaws, discolorations or stains and pay attention to buy 100% natural fabrics!
You usually spend some time browsing for tips on how to spot an authentic scarf, but here’s a great HOW TO RECOGNIZE AUTHENTIC HERMÈS by sassyme.org, it was really useful for me when i was researching whether the scarf I found is original or not. It is ❤

6. Shop for the basics first
It’s quite simple, pick a number under 9 for starters, then think of scarves in different patterns to buy. You should need a striped one, a floral, a chain&equestrian inspired one, a vintage damasc pattern, one with an etnic pattern, at least a silk one, then a cotton one…just adjust the number of scarves you can afford to the patterns you want to own and buy variations of those you love best.

7. Know the stars
Do a little research and know how the famous scarves look like, what are the top brands and how to recognise the best pieces. You will never know what you find in thrift stores or at vintage fairs, therefore take your time and identify the famous items you’d love to have and match your personality, then go explore your options and buy similar good quality pieces and start building your own collection.
If you decide to shop fot pretty scarves, take a look on my FB Page, Fashion from the closet, for I will post there a few scarves I have for sale.

Believe me, once you find some good stuff you’ll grow a new addiction.
To help you even more, here are a few links from my favorite scarf related articles:
Thebudgetfashionsta gives you 20 ideas on how to tie a scarf. My favorites are no 5 and 17. Really cool ideas!
One of the largest virtual collections of Hermès scarves available online can be seen here. Take a look through the gallery and keep in mind a few favorites next time you look for an original one in a thrift store. The more you learn about them, the easier it will be to spot them right on!

Have fun shopping for such an amazing item and let me know if you want more info about this subject!


When to listen? When to speak?

23 Jul

What’s wrong with you? What are you planning to do with your life? Why do you love this place? … if you had to answer at least one of these questions recently you know what I’m writing about. Sometimes I reply, sometimes I’m just tired to answer questions that don’t really need my reply. They may be parents, siblings, friends or strangers asking this, but no matter the answer I give, if they’re not open minded enough or at least willing to understand my explanation, I’m doing it in vain.

ImageI believe people are amazing in their differences, but if it were to put them in two categories, I would choose the fits and the misfits. It’s neither good or bad, it’s subjective and it mostly depends on each one’s point of view. Do I fit or not where I am now? I tend to think I don’t. However, changing the social background I might end up in a community where I’d fit perfectly. Would I be happier there? Who the fuck knows!

Everyone of us goes through the both categories mentioned earlier and they are usually analised by how much time they spend in general in one of them. Given a certain social situation, you either fit or don’t. You’re cool or just weird. At the end of the day, you can look back and see if the people you met today saw you more socially acceptable or just a quirky misfit. The next day you might be the opposite. Gathering all this feed-back, people make their own opinion about you: some of them stick the label from the first encounter, others pay a little more attention to your behaviour, but in the end you’re all socially tagged by everyone you know – it’s like wearing an invisible outfit made out of nametags.Image

Change is the most amazing social behaviour I know, sometimes it comes naturally, sometimes you have to force it, it’s a quick shift or a deep movement…whatever it’s like, people change and you have to deal with it. They may change for better, they may change for worse, be prepared. You also change, so don’t be surprised when people you’ve met a long time ago say with regret that you’re not the same person anymore. Live your life so you can answer proudly: of course I’m not the same, I’m much, much better.

‘Be yourself’ it’s sometimes the worst advice you can give to some people, I’d love to see encouragement when a good behaviour shows up and social punishment when devious acts appear. ImageBoth appreciation and critique should become part of our daily life, it’s up to us to change ourselves and other for the better, for instance: how many times did you point to a stranger that it’s wrong to toss an empty plastic bottle on the street? How many times did you congratulate someone on not littering cigarette bums on the street?
Speak up, people! That’s what makes the difference!
Paying attention to others, encouraging or correcting someone’s behaviour are equally important in everyday life if we want to see change happening.Image

Romania it’s the ultimate land of ignorance. No one gives a fuck about the people around them, they all live from one day to the other, exploiting the nature and this earth like they have another planet to live on.

You think this is true? Maybe. It’s the good and the bad kind of maybe, since Romania it’s not the only country where this happens, however, it’s a country where you also find people who care. A LOT of them. They’re just too shy and quiet. They think the worst about their neighbours and the society, judging solely based on the messages they receive from this sick media of ours. Proactivity is unknown to them, they settle for the average life standards and they build social walls around their families forgetting to put some windows to see that the walls other people build are made from the same material and inside those everyone has a beautiful garden.

This amazing country I live in it’s in a metaphorically paradox of hell and paradise combined. People are beautiful, smart and powerful, but they forgot how to explore this about themselves. Each one has his secret garden getaway from the daily life, but when they look around they see only the walls others build, the same walls they’ve built, no windows, no doors, just dog shit and grim views.

Walls can be climbed, walls can be destroyed, walls fall.

It’s up to each and every one of us to get out of our comfort zone and see that we’re not that different. We should stop thinking negatively about others before we even interact with them.

Learn to LISTEN, learn to SPEAK. It’s that easy.

If you’re inclined to believe that everything is bad around you and everyone is mean and heartless, you will see that in every message that reaches up to you.
No one is born bad, everyone has a story they’re yearning to tell, but we all listen to little and when we do we only pretend to understand. I did that too, but I try to avoid doing it again in the future. Image
Tune down the voices in you head that say for instance that a tattooed young man is a loser and a pot head- that tattoo might honor his dead parents or a near death experience, he might be the future doctor who will save your kid’s life or your future son in law. Stop judging, start listening, this was just a random example, I bet you can find more.

This country of mine, full of don’t give a fuck-ers, is also the land of beautiful stories waiting to be discovered.

How can I ever hate this place who has so many amazing people to meet? You just thought of at least three reasons I should go away and never return, but I can look over the misery, the un-educated individuals, the corruption, the burdens of everyday life and the countless moments of “why am I still here?”, because at the end of the day, nothing can match finding someone like you to talk to, with good ideas to share, great advice to give and a lot of hopes for a better day.

Take this as a thank you for meeting me and telling me your story. Thank you for being in my news feed, in the magazines I read, at the places I visit and in my daily life. And you are so many! How can I lose hope that Romania will get better when I see good ideas put into action everyday, positive feed back on social activities and many, oh-so-many, new faces that get involved in their community, bringing good vibes and smiles for everyone?

We are the power, we are many and we can change together for the better, just listen to the people around you, get to know them and realise you are NOT alone…

..then speak up your mind and act accordingly!

If you’re also addicted to collecting inspirational photos, have some of my favorites on this subject 🙂
Save them and read them again sometime!


















To be or not to be tired

24 Jan

Tonight, I feel tired. I’d normally say it’s because of the lack of sleep, but this time I think the main reason I feel tired is the large amount of time I spent in front of the computer. I finally have a Facebook Group, it’s called Beauty Hunters and I invite you all to join me there for more beauty sharing.[I worked for this all day]

However, back to the subject of being tired, I advise you to avoid doing the same thing I did today.

My advice on how to behave at home, in front of the pc:

Once in a while [1time/hour i think it’s fine], go away from the computer,

walk around the house,

drink one glass of water,

look outside the window for 1 minute,

do 10 sit-ups and stretch for 2 mins.

While sitting down in front of the computer, keep your shoulders down and your spine straight. Even if you feel pain at first, it’s only because you’ve been sitting in the wrong position for who knows how long[maybe years!!]. You’ll thank me after, when you’ll get used to having a straight pose [and look better in pictures]. I had quite a hard time doing it, but I now try to stay in a healthy position for the most time of the day.

Remember to eat, and if you’re a night birdie like me, try to schedule your meals so you eat last time 3 h before going to bed. Don’t eat high calories or high sugar food, avoid fat and cafeine after the sun sets. [in winter, let’s say after 9 pm:)]. If you are hungry, eat small meals once every 2-3 h, or drink water instead!

But most importantly, go to sleep. There’s nothing better than a good night sleep, or if you’re in my category, a sleep from 2am to 10 pm (yes, for me is healthy to sleep 10 h/night). The best advice I can give you for a good refreshing sleep is to go to bed thinking you’re going to sleep, not with all your problems in mind. Let your subconscious solve your problems while you rest.

I hope I was somehow useful. If you have tips for me, I’d be grateful to hear them.

Good night,


Advice for bloggers

12 Jan

My dear friends from the social media world, today I only want to give you an advice: Use ‘justify’=align full (Alt+Shift+J for wordpress).

Is it really necessary to explain the difference it makes when someone reads your blog??

Take this advice from me and give yourself 30 seconds to do the following Ctrl+A and then Alt+Shift+J.

If you already do this and you realise how important it is for your readers, Thank you.

Thank you for making my journey through Social Media a nice and justified one.

Love you guys. xx